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A lot of people believe that, anal sex is for gay men only. It is not true. US studies proved that, around 10% of the adult heterosexual Americans practice anal sex regularly. This means a larger number of straight people practice anal sex than gays. In fact anal sex is not a preferred sexual practice of around 40% of gay men.

The Anal sex is very popular in South America. Studies and surveys found that, 40 - 50% of the South American couples practice anal sex regularly. Many of them practice to avoid pregnancy, some others practice it during menstruation, to avoid the blood, and the younger girls practice anal sex to save their virginity. .

Recent US surveys, (released by Kinsey Institute) revealed that :
     - 43% of the American women had tried anal sex at least once.
     - 40% of them enjoyed it.
     - 49% did not like it.
For the rest of them, who tried, it did not mean anything. They could not form a positive or negative opinion.

Why would anyone try to have anal sex?
Some gay men find anal penetration highly pleasurable and many can also experience orgasms through anal intercourse. The lining of the anal cavity is rich with nerve endings and deep penetration may allow for stimulation of the prostate gland, which many heterosexual men also find highly arousing.

What is anus?
A part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. It is is full of nerve endings in the pelvic region. To touch these "nerve ends" might cause arousing sexual feelings. However licking the anus and rectum area is not the smartest idea, because they carry a lot of bacteria there, that is normal there, but they may cause disease or infection if they get into the mouth or stomach..

Does Anal sex hurt? Is it something like pain and pleasure?
It should not hurt. If it does hurt, you are doing something wrong. It can hurt if you don't use lubrication. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it is possible to enjoy anal sex and can be an active part of your sex life. Some people may never like it, so you should not push your partner with this issue if she/he uncomfortable with it.

What do I need to have anal sex?
To take part in anal sex you need: A willing partner, condoms, lubricants, patience. One of the must popular lubricants is KY Jelly. It is an greaseless, odorless substance. It is available at most drug stores. Today's sex shops have a big selection of lubrications.. Do not use lubricants that are oil-based, such as Vaseline. Use only water base lubricants. Also make sure sure the lubricant you buy is condom compatible, and your condom is lubrication proof.

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Why should I use a condom?
If you often change sex partners, always wear a condom. For vaginal sex to. And even on your finger. A condom or a finger inserted into the anus can aid lubrication as well as protect against scratches from fingernails and rough skin that could lead to infection. Even if both you and your partner are disease-free, you should still use a condom as the rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and infection on the penis.

Is anal sex messy?
Anal sex should not be messy, but things can happen. If you wear condom, the clean up is easy. Regular bowel movements are the major function of the anus and rectum. If you practice anal sex your diet should be high in fiber and fruits. This will allow a bowel movement to be produced without force or effort. You and your partner should always wash thoroughly before and after anal sex. If you use a vibrator for penetration, make sure that this is washed thoroughly too, in hot soapy water with a splash of antiseptic added. You should use a condom on your vibrator too and never ever share your vibrator with anyone.

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What happens when performing anal sex?
The anus is a tight ring of muscle at the opening of the rectum, making initial penetration the most difficult part of anal sex. The anus is designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. If you really want to perform anal sex with somebody, the best you can do check out your anus area. Insert your finger about one half-inch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system - just like the muscles of the hand, for example. You can readily tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the involuntary or autonomic part of the nervous system, which governs such functions as heartbeat and stress response. The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety during anal sex. It will cause the anus to tense up automatically even if the passive partner is trying to relax. Even if a person does feel comfortable during anal sex, he or she may still need to learn voluntary control over his or her internal sphincter in order to relax it at will. Doing so requires regularly inserting a finger, perhaps in the shower each day, and feeling the internal sphincter.

Some people use a small love plug. The plug provides a unique sensation and many couples consider it an exciting addition to the bedroom. The muscle changes spontaneously and in response to behaviour. In this instance, simply paying attention is more important than trying to relax. Anyone can sooner or later learn how to control the internal sphincter. It is important to go slow during this whole procedure.

So where does the pleasure come from in Anal sex?
The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself. A finger can focus on them effectively. When an object or penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasures are involved. The outer portion of the rectum as we mentioned above, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure. Some people enjoy the feelings of pressure and fullness once they understand that these sensations do not presage an impending bowel movement.

In men, the prostate - which is just beyond the rectal wall, a few inches in, towards the front of the body - can be a source of pleasure when massaged by a finger, an object, or a penis. Also, the lower end of the penis, or "bulb," is near the anal opening opening. It is stimulated indirectly by most types of anal sex.

About AIDS
Unprotected anal intercourse is the single most risky behaviour in regards to AIDS. If neither you or your partner are infected with HIV (human immunodeficiency virus), you cannot get AIDS from anal sex. Almost half of American adults questioned in a nationwide sex survey believed that AIDS could be contracted from anal intercourse, whether or not one partner was infected, but this is not true. (The Kinsey Institute Survey). It is true that anal intercourse with an infected partner, without using a condom, most likely to transmit AIDS. The sensitive lining of the rectum might tear during anal intercourse, causing HIV-infected blood or semen to pass directly into a sex partner's bloodstream. Some doctors recommend not having having anal sex at all, under any circumstances. If you decide to do it, please use a condom and lots of water based lubricants.

What the best anal sex positions are?
During intercourse some women want to be on top to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Others like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style. Some women enjoy being penetrated while lying on their sides Take your time and use plenty of lubricant. If your partner complains that it is hurting, do not proceed until your partner is ready and comfortable. Eventually during your lovemaking your partner's anus will relax enough to allow the head of the penis to enter.

The best positions for anal sex depends largely on what stage you and your partner are at in your experiences. Rear entry or the "doggie style" position is the position that most people associate with anal sex. However, rear entry allows a penis or anal toy to penetrate deeply, and may not be the best choice for the beginner. A good starting position is the "spoons" position, with each partner laying on his or her side, one behind the other. This prevents the penetrating partner from going too fast, and allows complete control over penetration. It also brings you closer to your partner, making it easier to judge his or her reactions to what you're doing.

Another position for anal sex is a variation of the missionary position. The receiving partner lays on his or her back while the penetrating partner approaches from on top. The penetrating partner lifts up the calves or shins of the receiver, exposing the anus. This can be an especially intimate position, with both partners facing each other. The ‘top’ partner can masturbate the other and is open to massage and cuddling as well.

Finally, rear entry offers another possibility for anal penetration. This position allows the penetration to be the deepest, and permits the receiver to better open the anus for entry. Rear entry doesn't offer the kind of intimacy or ease of communication that the other positions do, but for more advanced lovers, can offer the greatest amount of thrusting and penetration.

There are many more positions and techniques to try. Many people discover new and exciting positions through experimentation, and most people find the one that best suits them. Good communication is the key to such discovery, and a manual, video or even a picture can help. For start - check out our Anal Sex photo album or visit the easy anal sex Position's home page. Positions which help make anal sex enjoyable for both.