Adult Dating | Erotic Swingers Sex Blog

He cum in 30 seconds

By jani on 29 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

Can I call him a minute man? I met a guy on-line. Not here on another dating site, but they don’t have forum… So we had our first date in a bar last Friday night and everything is worked out perfectly. He was nice, smelled good and there was a lot of chemistry. When the bar closed, we decided to go to my car (van) and make out.

And he did not take longer then 30 seconds to cum and I did not even give him my famous blow job… Lucky me, he probably would cum into my mouth, with out any warning, and I hate that.

Anyway, he just started to fuck me, I hardly had enough time to fined a comfortable position… and he already blow his load. So I protested and he called me a bitch and then left.

He could have at least stayed to eat my pussy. How come if a guy could not perform, blame their sexual inadequacies on women?

Get Laid Tonight! – Erotic Local Dating Personal Ads

Was he a teenager? Maybe he was virgin, and never see pussy before… Anyway, what do you except? You went to your car to have sex and he finished himself in 30 seconds… Well things like this can happen, but people usually have sex in car when they want to have a quicky…

As I see on your profile you are 39 years old, you should go somewhere in a motel, and play your game by the rules… which is good job need time, I talk about appetizer… You should not serve him the main curse, before you had the appetizer.

He did not blame you, he called you a beach, because, probably your language what you used to during your protest. Maybe you should say something like this: Okay, it was quick, let me find a solution to get you hard again… Did you try?

_________

I never would blame a woman for something I couldn’t do. Shame on him. If I had the issue of cumming to quickly, I definitely would have stayed to finish the job with my tongue – mouth combination. I would try to give you the best oral orgasm that you ever had. Do you wanna try?

________

Go to have sex in your car with a virgin dude and you pretty much get what you ask for. He has no reason to have any regard for you or care if you get off. He got off and he left. You got what you deserved, basically.

________

Maybe you did not have shower between the bar and your car… and your pussy had a bad odor, or maybe you had a bad attitude. Or maybe the combination of both.

Maybe you were just what he was looking for – a piece of ass, from the meat market… and that’s what got it. And then he left.

________

Lesson No. 1. Never let a guy fuck you before he eats your pussy.

Lesson No. 1 also goes for lesson Nos. 2 and 3.

I don’t know what the 4th lesson is, maybe some body can help me? But I think something like, adult women should not have sex in a car… that is for virgin teens…

_________

I think some guys don’t know how to communicate their sexual stamina to the women they disappoint. It might happen because they are inexperienced.

I myself feel very unsatisfied if I cum too soon. Sometimes it is because I am too horny or just to excited. I will not leave my partner unsatisfied, I will eat her pussy till she cum and look to fuck her again, because pussy eating always get me horny and the second time I will give her satisfaction.

I hate leaving a woman unsatisfied. That is same like stilling… Is a crime!

________

30 seconds you say. That means he had gone a long time without. That means wait half-an-hour and he could have another go with another hard-on. How old was he? Young? That means he’s good to go again.

How much drink did you both have–more than 3 beers? More than 6 beers? Or hard liqueur?

What were you’re exact criticism to him? Why shouldn’t that protest upset him? Did you call him dick less? Remember the old sayings, never look a gift horse in the mouth. Always say thank you,

You’re lucky he just called you bitch. Instead do something, you initiated the critical response, the failure is on you that he chose to call it an early evening and not continue fucking you the way you wanted.

Sounds like a good part of the failure that evening rests with you; especially as fucking a woman is by invite only and you failed in your response as well.

Related Topics:
Sex on the first date

Become a perfect sex partner

Casual sex advice

Erotic tips to reaching sexual satisfaction

Add your comment

Monogamous casual sex relationship

By jani on 27 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

Is it possible to find someone here to have long term monogamous, casual sex relationship? I mean get together once or twice a week, and have some erotic fun, include, intercourse, oral sex or what ever it take… After he goes his way, I go my way, until the next meeting. No love, no commitment, just hard core sex. Of course we need to find each other attractive, otherwise we would not enjoy it.

People put these labels: Friends with benefits and no strings attached sex. I’m very confused about it. And pretty much always they mention that having this type of relationships they were seeing other people.

So my question is: Is it possible to have long term sexual relationships (sex only) without seeing other people for casual sex? I know it sound complicated… and confusing. How can I explain?

I want a man who do not fuck everyone who is available. I want him to fuck me only and if he is married, of course he need to serve his wife sexual needs too.

Is it possible to find a man and develop a sex relationship like this?

________

Oh yeah baby! Email me and I will bang you years to come. I am not a sex god, but fairly good sex partner…

Erotic Adult Dating Personal Ads

________

If you are fortunate enough to meet a truly genuine person (they do exist); Sure! Just don’t hope for a miracle. Sounds pretty bleak, however the harsh reality.

A lot of fakes, and liars. Maybe their wife out of town and they just want to get a one night stand. You never trust a man, if you talk about no commitmetn sex… You want to get fucked and they want to fuck you… To get you, they will tell you what you want to hear, and as soon as their wife is back home… they will be gone.

I see on your age, you are not a teen girl, and you are naive like one…

_________

I tried it once and it ended very badly. Don’t get your heart attached to people here. They are 99% of the time logging on as soon as you leave. I won’t say it’s impossible, but I would keep that pretty little guard up.

Keep it in your mind, this is an erotic dating and swingers sex website. Swingers love to have sex often with multiply sex partners. They are everything but not monogamous, casual sex partners…

Actually I never heard a word combination like this: Monogamous, casual sex partner, but I understand what you try to do here.

Maybe your hubby is old, or he have some healthy issue and he can not make you “happy” sexually, but you do not want to leave him, instead you want a man, who can and will “do you” on a regular basics. If something is like this is in your mind, then yes, it is possible, but it wont happen overnight… You might have give an access to your pussy for a lot of men, before you will find one, who do not want to have sex with anyone else, just only with you…

_________

I am a man and I really do not mind to play with you, but years to come… Hard to say. I’d rather find a serious relationship, but if it comes down to finding a partner for more than a night. So if it years to come I would like it to be an exclusive partnership so I / we can really take our time getting to know each other in many different ways.

A far as one-nighties go, no thanks! I want to be able to know my partner so that each succeeding time we meet up, there is something worth talking about, something from our last tryst that enables me to get a better handle on how best to please her as my lover, and I want a reason besides sex alone to look forward to seeing her again.

For me, a FWB situation needs to be exclusive and meaningful in more than a sexual way.

FWB is something that both partners need to discuss openly and come to solid acceptance of terms, whatever they may be.

No strings attached ex is nice, but is just too sterile for my age and tastes. I want more, period.

_________

That’s right, as I wrote it above I’m looking for sexual relationships, not friendship, not pen pals, no cam sex, no online sex, no boyfriend and not husband. So, just because it’s a sex site, or swingers sex web site it’s completely imposable to have it with one partner only?

_________

No Milashka. there is nothing impossible if we talking about sex here. But as too good to your baby wrote it, it wont happen overnight…

________

It has happen before, search the archives for success stories.

It happened with me too. I just can not, and do not walk out from my marriage and my husband know I have someone on the site, and he is okay with this. He know I have needs that he can not fulfill, but we still love each other. Love and sex is two different things.

Anyway, I have applied what I’ve learned from DatingSensations to all to my erotic dating and have met men on this websites that have led to a 3 year long sex relationships and one 1 year long in the last 6 years. The 1 year long is presently on going…

We consider ourselves friends for the public and virtually we are fuck buddy. You can call it “dating exclusively” for sex. It is what you make of it. I’m really hoping for a longer term sex relationship, but it takes time to know people.

Related Topics:

The differences between swingers sex & casual sex

Friends and dating. What about friends and erotic dating?

Add your comment

Older men and casual sex

By jani on 25 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

Older men as casual sex partner. Why are older men are better lovers?

Is it me, or do older men seem to enjoy getting their partner off more than younger men do?

_________

I absolutely agree that older men do care more about their sex partner… and they are much more polite then young guys.

As we women get older we have less chance to have quality sex and if we lucky enough to have a mind blowing orgasm we appreciate more our partner’s love making knowledge. I am 35 years old, and no any guy from my age group or younger guy was able to make me climax with vaginal penetration.

Men 10 – 15 years older then me could take their time… as long as it needed.

Erotic Adult Dating Personal Ads

Experience is a great teacher and experience comes with age!

I am a 58 years old man. I am all about my partner’s pleasure, and because I do not cum very often, but have a lot of stamina, I can take my time to explore a range of techniques and discover the things that bring her the most enjoyment.

I derive my pleasure from the enjoyment my lovers or sex partner experience, while learning from her what works best each time, so that each next time is potentially that much more enjoyable.

A woman seeking an older, more experienced lover are far more likely to learn new things about what their own bodies are capable of, are likely to enjoy longer and better foreplay, and will come away with a greater and deeper understanding of what they should expect from a good lover to begin with.

Some have said that such a lover would ruin it for other lovers she has, but it is my conviction that she will be far better prepared to offer directions and instructions that produce results, to her future lovers, while being far less prone to settling for any half-baked asshole who thinks he’s god’s gift to any woman.

_________

I think guys in their 50′s are wonderful lovers… patient, very concerned with their partner’s pleasure, well-versed in a variety of techniques, etc.

As a result, I prefer them over the ones in their 30′s, even though the younger guys have their appeal in other ways.

_________

Fortunately, I learned pretty quickly that there were two of us in bed looking for enjoyment, not just me. I don’t profess to be the greatest thing since sliced bread, but, hopefully, I have learned to press the right buttons and take my time.

I have stated previously, sex with man over 50 is more of a long distance event than a 100 meter dash. We take time to speed up, keep on the speed longer and pass the finish line hours later, while give to our partner and to ourselves total sexual satisfaction…

Erotic Dating Video Personal Ads

I’ve always preferred older men. From my experience, they’ve been more attentive. Even though their libido
was not what it once was when they were younger, they took their time because they wanted to savor every moment up to penetration. No “wham bam thank you, ma’am” with them…

_________

What seems to be older is younger for me and not to generalize, it is my experience that most men in their lower to upper 50′s make great lovers. They are considerate, educated, have nice manners and their knowledge of “la femme” is surprisingly and refreshingly good.

_________

So far I do find that when playing with older men, I am able to enjoy and climax more often and many times over then when I am playing with guys around and younger then me.

Plus because they do not take short cuts… my climax are much more fulfilling, satisfying then with climax from younger guy.

________

I think it have to do something with the women age too. I am a 65 years old women to have sex with a 70 years old man is not at the top of my wish list…

I enjoy younger men-always have, always will. But when you get to be my age, that’s damn near all of them! I prefer late 30′s to mid 40′s because they are old enough to have all that teenage crap out of the way but they are also experienced enough to know their way around a female body.

I have a high sex drive yet, and that age group seems to be able to keep up with me! But it is not easy, because not many 530 years old man want to have sex with a women, who can be older and probably is older then their mother…

Related Topics:

Older women, younger men & casual sex.

Add your comment

Fear of anal sex hurting

By jani on 22 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

What is the best way to overcome the fear of anal sex hurting?

We tried it twice now and it still hurts. So I didn’t let them finish. I’m stuck in a rut and not sure how to go about this.

_________

Through many years of giving anal sex with many different women I have found that its more mental then anything else…

That is not to say it does not hurt… it does and can. I find the use of a real good lube and the smarts not to force it in has been the most successful way to go.

As they say… slow and easy. Now the size of the man is also important… Too big is sure to cause problems.. It seems my 6×5 is a great size for some… too big for others… Of course I am sure too small for some.

It seems to fit the size for anal pretty dang good as I have been told. As for you, try work a butt toy in. Start with something small and as it becomes normal then up the size. If you Break your ass to pleasure then you can find it with a guys later.

Don’t give up, many women orgasm better during anal sex then vaginal penetration. Let me know how you made out and keep me posted on your progress.

Get laid tonight! Local adult dating personal ads!

You are going too fast. Anal penetration can be extremely pleasurable, for women too, but you need to be completely relaxed. Take your time, try to get an orgasm or two in first, plenty of lube, plenty of manual stimulation, take it in a little bit at a time, communicate.

Don’t worry if it doesn’t work out, it may take a number of sessions before you are ready for full on anal sex.

_________

As with any fear you have to face the fear to overcome it. As far as the pain of butt fucking I’ve experienced that!

I was lucky enough have also experience how nice it felt, more then once. Your partner needs a lot of lube.

Second and most important he needs to take it slowly and gently! Lastly, ask him not to fuck your ass and remind him to make love with your butt instead.

_______

First, you have to relax, before anal penetration.

If you are tensing yourself up waiting for it to hurt, you’re going to experience pain. Make sure that he’s using lots of lube… and that he’s not just trying to stick his dick in there and go. Have him work the area with some light teasing, finger penetration, maybe try with a small dildo before you go for the cock penetration.

Seriously though, if you don’t relax for it, it’s going to hurt. Once you let your body go and really get into
it, it’s an amazing experience, that can end up in a incredible orgasm, if your partner have anal sex related knowledge…

_________

Not to think about the fact that it may hurt because all that does is force you to tighten up.

If anal sex is something you really want to do, the best way to get over the fear is to start with something like a finger. Cowgirl is an excellent position for that.

Once you have had sex a few times and have gotten used to a finger being in there, try using a small butt plug and eventually work your way up until you are using something that is about the same size as your partner.

By then you should be in a place where there may still be a little pain, but you at least won’t be adding to it by tightening up and may wind up in enjoying yourself once he gets settled in.

Also, while you are still getting used to it, your partner should know that once he is inside, he should not be pulling himself all the while out while thrusting until you have thoroughly relaxed.

_________

There is no fear of hurting to overcome if it actually hurts you. If it is going to be something that
obviously hurts you to do, then don’t do it.

Female half here is just built so petite that there is no way she could do anal without getting ripped open – so it’s just off limits. Plain and simple. Sorry guys.

If you insist this is something you need to do, then why not try smaller dongs or but plugs out yourself first. They do make sex toys specifically for anal play, and you would be in total control of the action. If that doesn’t work either, then you’ll have to forget it; anal sex just won’t work for you.

_________

Relax and take your time. Use fingers, toys, and lots of lube…then it shouldn’t hurt. Also finding a partner who knows what he or she is doing helps.

_________

Detailed Sex Guide with 300 sex position on DVD

When you anticipate that it will hurt, your muscles will tighten up even more and it will hurt. Take some of the excellent advice here and hopefully you will get past that and discover a new route to some real pleasure.

Even though I’ve enjoyed it a number of times, there are days when I’m just not ready enough or relaxed enough and it just doesn’t work, so I accept that and hope that the next time I am ready and able.

After all, there are plenty of other things you can do to have a wonderful time with someone! I also find that a glass or two or wine helps me to relax.

Related Topics:

Why would anyone want to have anal sex? Erotic play with her anus. Read all the article at next>>>

Anal sex positions, with anal sex positions photos at next>>>

Add your comment

Squirter Women

By jani on 19 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

Consistent squirting. I’m a squirter, found that out via masturbating! I was wondering why do I squirt one time having sex with someone then when I have sex with the same partner or with different different partner, but in the same same sex position, I don’t squirt??

Anyone else have this happen?

__________

Maybe it is because you know your body better then your lovers. Try talking more to your men and let them know what you like and want and then maybe the water works will come back.

Just a personal note squirting is hot and very sexy!

_________

That happens to me as well. Those who have made me squirt can do it consistently, but there are others who haven’t been able to make it happen at all even with guidance.

It all depends on your partners ability to find your spot & with you relaxing yourself enough to let go & let it flow.

My wife is a squirter too and as inconsistent as you. In my wife’s case it’s more about how erotic the situation
is rather than what is happening!

_________

I don’t squirt so I can’t say first hand. I would think it has something to do with your state of mind at the time. Maybe you’re not as relaxed as you are when your masturbating.

Sometimes if you try to do anything to hard it just makes it more difficult.

_________

It is different every time. Sometimes I find that once a man gets me really squirting, they expect it every time, that puts pressure on me to squirt and makes it harder.

I also find that being slightly dehydrated makes it harder too.

_________

I’m not a squirter, so I can’t answer your question. I didn’t even know such a thing existed until my husband
tried to get me interested in porn some years back and that was one of the subjects. Squirt queens, or some such thing was that porn movies name.

I never really understood how it happens. Maybe, like fre2play says, it has to do with your state of mind and how excited and therefore how wet you get as you masturbate.

________

I find it depends on many things…

My mood, degree of arousal.

My partner penis size and his knowledge, etc.

I just enjoy it when it happens!!! And of course the guys enjoy even more!

________

The most frustrating is when I don’t want to squirt and it happens… Like at home at night in our bed. I don’t wanna sleep on THAT wet spot! So I need to change the bed shit, and it usually happens when the bed is clean. I think it is something in my brain.

With me it has to do with how hydrated I am… less hydrated, less squirting… and alcohol causes less volume too. So when I changed the bed shits, then I drink before I go to sleep. My husband don’t like to touch me if I drink… so it give me a day or two on hand, but after that, I will get that bed really wet…

Related Topics:

How to turn you lady sex partner on

How can any men become a perfect sex partner

Are you want to be a sex GOD

Add your comment

Anal Sex – Women Anal Orgasm

By jani on 17 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

I’ve noticed in several couple’s profile responses in the question’s section: What do you think about anal sex? One of the response is “anal sex gives the best orgasms“. Several couples selected this option.

I wonder who is talking – the man, woman, or both? I love doing anal penetration on a willing woman, but can someone tell me how she achieves an orgasm from a cock in her ass? Not that I’m complaining, but maybe there is something that I need tot know…

__________

You’re still allowed to stimulate the clitoris or g-spot even if you’re doing anal. The two concepts
are not mutually exclusive. In fact you should stimulate her sexual organs. Her back door is not sexual organ. That hole was created by mother nature for exit only. If you enter in, that can be a lot of fun for you as a man, but she needs more then just to feel fulfilled…

Aside from that, some women claim to orgasm from anal sex without further stimulation anyway, so I guess it depends on your lady partner. Personally myself, I need much more then a dick in my arse…

Get laid tonight! Local adult dating personal ads!

Local Adult Dating Video Personal Ads

I’ve been with few women who have orgasms through anal that are the most intense I’ve ever seen (with very little clitoral or vaginal stimulation if any). They also remarked that those are the best orgasms they can have.

However I am agree with Aussie lady at above. That hole is not created to enter… So just because some ladies can have very intense orgasm during anal sex, for that reason alone even though I’m not that into anal I’ll do a woman that way if she asks. Her need comes first…

When they cum it can be amazing to see. Also be prepared, accident can happen easily in anal sex. Anal sex can be very messy, so you might see things that you do not see during vaginal penetration…

_________

Science says anal sex with a woman does not stimulate any nerves associated with sexual pleasure. This fact alone would suggest it is unlikely a woman can orgasm just from anal.

It is pretty much the same with anal sex between men. If gay men having anal sex, the guy on the receiving end do not feel other then pain… They say, the giving guy can hit their prostate and that cause them to have an orgasm. Well I prefer not to try this version of orgasm.

I can vouch for the first option, (woman is at the receiving end) but not the second one personally.

_________

I have never understood that either but some women claim they can cum from just anal. But I am thinking they must be stimulating their clitoris at the same time.

_________

I believe it is because the wall between the Anal Canal and the vagina is very thin and you are actual stimulating her G spot with your hard dick through it.

Also because you are entering her in a different angle for some women, I think it offers better stimulation. My
wife can have intense orgasms from anal, but not bigger then from vaginal, clitoral penetration.

I think when I am in her Golden hole I hit her G spot on the way, I can not hit it during vaginal penetration. I can also do with my finger in her ass while I suck on her clit, or during missionary vaginal penetration. That really drives her nuts.

_________

I would say that if they do orgasm from purely anal sex – then it’s psychological.

Our brains can mimic what pleases us to the point that just thinking about it can be more intense then the actual act.

That is why people think about very erotic things when they are masturbate. They try to state their brain into the orgasmic pleasure mode…

_________

Orgasm is an autonomic physiologic response for mental and psychical stimulation. Orgasm is a series of rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles of which include the clitoris & the anus. But (no pun intended) you as her sex partner must first stimulate her mind. Trust, oral stimulation, lube, a finger, massage….

FOREPLAY is the game name, that leads to orgasm and many guys keep forget this. Once again guy foreplay is the way to her anal orgasm.

Obviously if she has no interest in anal sex that decision must be respected or the first thing on my list “TRUST” is gone! No trust, no orgasm…! (on her part)

Does anal sex hurt? If it done right, it should not. It can cause some tissues rips, bleeding, so condom is very basic… Read more about anal sex>>>>

________

I absolutely love ANAL SEX and it is such a turn on. But while I love it, I love the feeling and everything about it, I do not have an orgasm from just anal sex.

It doesn’t take much clitoral stimulation during anal to send me into a mind blowing orgasm though. In my eyes, it is very safe to say that anal with the combination of anything… gives the best orgasms.

_________

I have to admit to being one of the anal sex lovers. The orgasms are different and usually stronger. Had my first g spot orgasm through anal… Before that I did not even know I have G-spot.

So I agree that sometimes its partly from the angle and the penis hitting the g spot… But it feels different than a gspot orgasm that’s stimulated vaginally.

Orgasm is an orgasm, but during anal orgasm, there is a WOW factor… I don’t really care why it feels incredible, but ladies bottoms up… and give it a whirl.

Detailed Sex Guide with 300 sex position on DVD

Related Topics:

Why would anyone want to have anal sex? Erotic play with her anus. Read all the article at next>>>

Anal sex positions, with anal sex positions photos at next>>>

Add your comment

Women enjoy receive oral sex

By jani on 13 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

How much do you lady’s enjoy a man going down on you? Are most of your sex partner good at it, would you say?

_________

All the men I choose to spend time with are either very good at giving oral or take direction well. Either works for me. However, the worst is someone who thinks he knows what he’s doing, doesn’t respond to feedback and won’t accept direction.

If that’s the case, I need to stay home and wash my hair whenever he’s available.

As for enjoyment, as part of play time, I love both giving and receiving oral. I want vaginal penetration and other forms of play too but oral is big fun!

By the way, oral sex is only fun for a woman if the man is enthusiastic about it. If he’s holding his nose and plunging in to my vagina I’d rather he not bother. I keep myself clean and expect him, too. No enthusiasm, again, my hair is feeling dirty…

________

To answer your question, yes, I enjoy oral a lot! Most have been very good at it, if not, you can try to lead them to what you do like.

Local Erotic Dating Personal Ads

Most men think they are good at it.

So many profiles brag about how great they are and excellent at oral sex. So why are these men still looking for sex partner!??

I honestly think that women are afraid to say when it’s not good…. Don’t want to hurt feelings, upset a partner, kill an ego, or whatever.

If women would just say what feels good and how they like this or that it would make a big difference. I just think that sometimes some guys just forget that we are all different and like different things, even in oral sex.

I’m just sayin’…

_________

Some say they are good at it and they really are. Some say they are and not good at all. Then some say nothing and they are superciliously good down there. They are so good I want to keep them do me at all the time…

_________

Well, I’d say enjoy it as much as a guy probably enjoys getting head.

Are most men good at it? My guesstimate would be around the same percentile of women that are good at giving head.

_________

I think more women fake an orgasm during oral sex to put an end to the physical abuse, than are willing to admit it…

Detailed how to have good sex guide with videos

Most men are terrible at oral sex. They just lap around like dogs and expect me to orgasm in 30 seconds. I guess they try to learn from porn movies.

It is a skill. I try to teach them, but few learn. The ones that do I try to keep around as long as I can!

You can learn everything about sex at next>>>

_________

Some are good, even great, some aren’t. Funny thing…that’s the first thing that clued me in that my husband was messing around…his oral technique changed from great to something else that was kind of odd for me. Must have been what she like.

_________

I believe if they enjoy it they are better at it and can get you off but if that’s not really their thing it sucks.

________

I love a man who will take his time and do it right… Women can definitely tell the men that love it vs the men that just do it because we like it.

I love oral sex crave it but I really want a guy who gets into it…. Most men are not good at it because they don’t respond to what women like. Believe me, I will show you if you pay attention…

Related Topics:

Everything about oral sex – include oral sex positions

Become a perfect sex partner

Give her a mind blowing orgasm

Add your comment

Extramarital Sex

By jani on 09 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

Ethics Question about Sex Outside Sexless, Affection less Marriages

Many people are on Adult Swingerscouple.net because they are not getting either sex or affection from their spouse or significant other.

That is the case for me. My wife has had a serious heart condition for eight years, and has ruled out sex during that time. No hugging and romantic kissing, we are like brother and sister.

After a couple of years of no sex and no affection, I went on Swingerscouple.net to meet women. I met a woman who was also married, though she was planning to divorce. (I have no plans to divorce my wife, I cannot abandon her as she needs me a lot and sex aside, we are a good couple).

We (the women from Swingerscouple.net and I) had a good sex relationship, and as every sex relationship, ours too, mainly based on sex. After two years, she changed her desire and she wanted a husband and stepfather for her son. So we moved on.

Local Erotic Adult Dating Personal Ads

My wife is aware that I have been with her and a couple of other women since, and has neither confronted nor complained.

I really feel that having lovers outside the marriage has made it survive. I don’t know if I could stick it out without sex for a decade, masturbation only goes so far.

My question is this: How do you feel about this extramarital activity, which I feel has saved my marriage?

__________

Well…. every men who cheat on their wife try to find an excuse, why they do, other women. You found a good one, however it stinks…

There is no hearth condition exist that prohibit hugging and romantic kissing. Actually hugging and romantic kissing, just shows love and being loved and it help for any sick people.

You are like brother and sister. A marriage can not be a brother and sister like… we do not married our brother and sister. It can be sex less, but we love our brother and our sister differently. If you feel like she is your sister, then you should divorce. You can care about her and take care of her with out marriage license…

_________

Usage of the word confronted suggests to me that you actually haven’t told anything about your sex life to your wife. If you’re more like sister and brother then what’s the problem with telling the woman and get it out there in the open?

Also, I must be really stupid or something but I don’t fully understand how a heart condition can totally prohibit hugging and kissing – particularly if it’s non-sexual.

People can live without sex albeit uncomfortably. They don’t however survive very well without physical touch by way of a hug or even holding hands from time-to-time.

How do I feel about your extramarital sexual activity, which you feel has saved your marriage?

Unfortunately I don’t think your affairs saved your marriage. Any relationship go down if one person from a couple cheating on the other. And you do so.

I don’t envy you or your wife. You’re both caught between a rock and a hard place. If you feel that cheating is saving your marriage, then who are we to judge? In any case, this matter relates to you and your wife only. Problem is, she may be aware of what’s going on, but unfortunately hasn’t given her consent so she turns a blind eye. Can’t be too good for her ticker knowing her husband is seeing other women can it?

Sorry, but I don’t know what else to say to you because I don’t know what you really want to hear. If it’s
validation, sorry but I can’t do that. Look at things this way: What if you were impotent? What would you expect your wife to do? What would you want her to do? Do you would want her to talk to you? Or you want her to fuck the neighbor guy?

Remember, you said, masturbation only goes so far… and I think this would apply to your wife too…

_________

When you ask people’s opinion, you might not like what’s said. In life, everyone is judgmental about something, even the most open-minded person. He asked how everyone felt about his situation and what he’s doing, so I guess he does seek approval to his casual sex relationship to make him feel better. Otherwise, he wouldn’t care what anyone says.

I agree with the responders, if she give approval, then I guess she’s cool with the whole thing, but if you’re hiding what you do, then you are a rat. If she finds it out, that definitely wont help to her hearth condition.

Could it be that you know it would hurt her if she found out? Whenever I talk to married guys, I always ask them how their wives would react to them being on an erotic adult dating website and trying to pick up women. Most say their wives would be hurt.

I then tell them, if they want to hurt their wives, they should just divorce them! That’s what I’m saying to you. Yes, she’s sick and you care about her, but if she found out you were on Swingerscouple.net, would she really be cool with it or would she be hurt?

I think the fact that you’re here trying to justify (or get approval) about what you’re doing, lets you know that it’s not the right thing to do.

_________

Seems to me that there is a great deal more to this story. While you mention no kissing, you make no mention of no oral sex.

She should understand your needs and do what she can to provide release – satisfaction to you. While not the same as a good fuck, a great blow job can be very satisfying.

_________

Cheating is cheating no matter what the reasons that you come up with to justifies your behavior. How would you feel if you where not well and your wife was the one out fuck around!? It sounds like your dick means more to you than she does.

I feel sorry for the lady!

Sex Tips – Sex Advices with Sex Position Videos

Related Topics:

Communication – Better sex

Sex with married women

Add your comment

Share your sex friend

By jani on 05 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

This is for all you married and attached men on SwingersCouple.net, all lamenting that they don’t have sex with their official other halves (not judging you, just stating a fact).

If you’ve hooked up with a fuck buddy, or sensitive people call it sex friend and you’re happy to share her and try all kinds of non vanilla stuff, have you ever asked yourself how comfortable you would really be doing this kind of stuff with your “real life” partner? I mean under the word, real partner, your spouse, you married partner, and permanent living in partner.

If your wife suddenly said she wanted to get into swapping, group sex, making videos, wouldn’t you really be horrified? Aren’t you secretly proud that she’s so virtuous and isn’t nasty sex just for naughty girls?

I’m still musing on the wife – nymphomaniac wife – whore theory thing and I’d be interested to hear your thoughts. However I do not have problem to share my hubby and we share often…

_________

Strangely enough, when I was married, I would never have considered any sort of swapping what so ever. I stayed faithful to her as well until the end of our marriage that had run it’s course.

As I see things now, I would be more open to swapping if she was interested.

But now… First, I need to find a competitive woman and then we can see where it leads.

You’ve asked some pretty good questions, and you made me think…

Erotic Adult Dating Personal Ads

_________

I myself am “attached”- in my household the sex sucks! Not in a good way either. Only a few minutes here and their, literally no foreplay, no pussy licking or erotic kissing. I am a very sexual person, cannot imagine the rest of my life living this way.

I’ve been on and off this site for at least a few years now and I’ve met up and had sex with some single guys and men that aren’t single. The ones that aren’t single will tell me that they do have sex with their other half, but its just “ok” or not nearly enough.

They are pretty much the same position I am in. Some I feel would still cheat, others I think would just be in an open relationship, but I am not 100% sure sure about.

If there was NOWAY I could look elsewhere for sex, it would literally kill me, the part of me who I am and I cant change that. Honestly, I would rather have out of the relationship I am in now and the next one I am involved in would be an open relationship.

However, we have a son together and if I had the means to pay a mortgage on my own, I would do that as well. But right now, I can’t.

If he said he would get better and swing as well, then great, but emotionally, I would just rather cut strings with my other half and be on my own until someone else of my choosing comes along.

Its a long story, but lets just say that he is not such a nice guy who I find obnoxious.

As the your title, “Sharing your fuckbuddy” well, I am a woman, but I would share mine anytime! I also don’t think any of my sex partner would look back and be horrified if their wives suddenly became a sex bunny and have any regrets.

Those are just my opinions and thoughts. Great subject though….

__________

I do not understand something from summer fun 69′s post. She wrote it, her family sex life virtually does not exist, and because a luck of sex, she is into casual sex with married and unmarried men. But she scare leave her spouse, because she needs him to pay the mortgage…

I think this is kind of whore’s thing…. I bet you her husband does not know she fuck around… Why we have two norm…? Is it very bad if a married man looking for casual sex, with out his wife… but if the woman do the same… is okay…

It would be okay only, if she does it with the knowledge of her husband… so communication is very important. She should stand at front of him and tell him, she need more sex and if she can not get it home, she going to get it from somewhere else, but this is just my opinion.

_________

I’d love to get married t a woman who LOVES to share and be shared, of course. For me a perfect woman would be a dominate… I’d want her to be the DOMINATING sex partner of mine and others in my present.

__________

I agree with you on both points.

I also think most of the married and attached men (not the serial philanderers) have found the sex to be dull and they’re
often not happy in other aspects of their relationship as well.

They and their wives haven’t done what it takes to keep the intimacy alive. My point is I think alot of them want not just the sex but also the attention from a woman, the intimacy and connection. I know when I got divorced (after a long marriage with little sex), it was just nice to finally be sexual with a friendly person who dug me.

A guy I met who had been through that (was divorced when I met him) said his therapist told him sex outside the marriage is a way of acting out anger, a way to get back at the spouse.

_________

That’s so hard to say. I don’t think that ALL married or attached men get a fuckbuddy just to have non vanilla sex with a “naughty girl“.

I believe they just want to get a fuckbuddy, for exact reasons…who knows? I do agree that many men would like to have a “virtuous” woman rather then a “nasty” one as a mate.

But what about married women. Why do they get fuckbuddy? Probably for the same reason…

_________

Related Topics:

Is sex good for your health?

Sex Life – Libido Enhancement for Men & Women

Erotic Ideas For Couples To spice Sex Life up

Add your comment

Sex positions | Doggy style

By jani on 02 July 2010 under Sex Related Info

Do you think that doggy style is the most popular when it comes to sex?

_________

I bet it might be the most popular answer in a poll, for sure.

Also I participated in many hot parties and I have many friends… from what I’ve gathered, some of my lady friends seem to prefer doggy-style too, because the angle of penetration usually stimulates the g-spot more.

We all know or should know, what that can lead to. Besides that, there seems to be deeper penetration
most of the time providing better chance for a cervical orgasm to compliment the g-spot induced orgasm.

Wether or not it’s the best position is debate able. I think it’s going to require further research…. or you should try to figure out from your own experience…

__________

Can’t speak anyone but… doggy style id definitely is one of the most popular style and my favorite too.

__________

It makes me stay hard and rock solid for a longer time. Watching the pussy open and close and the her golden hole shine and the spanking on the cheeks is the added benefit wit her tits just having a rollicking time. Wow!

__________

MMMMMM…nothing measures up to doggy!

__________

I would guess it to be missionary position.

Get laid tonight! local erotic adult dating ads.

_________

I love doggy style myself, but I love practically every position imaginable. I would say doggy style and woman on top are my favorites.

Seems like a contradiction because, with doggy style, the man obviously dominates, and with me on top, I am more in control.

_________

Everything about sex- Including sex positions on video

I like doggy style but it’s not my favorite. I like her on top. Always have, even when I was younger. Now a days it’s due to laziness. Let her do what ever she wants…

_________

Well, after 31 years of missionary in the family bedroom, anything else is great, but I especially like doggy.

__________

My fave is missionary and then cowgirl. I like to be able to look and interact with my partner.

_________

I find that doggy style is the most favorite sex position and probably doggy style is the most erotic, so if the guy have hard time to control his act, he should not do her in doggy at first, because he will blow his load at no time….

Bur if you have a woman sitting on top with her back to you, she can control the movement which allows for great sex and can give a man a little rest and time to control himself! And then the second turn should be deep penetration in doggy style.

______

Related Topics:

Sex positions - intercourse positions & love making positions in details

Position for double penetration

Add your comment

« Older Entries